So, things are changing again. My wife is going to Jersey this weekend to see her family, but then she has to be back by Sunday midday. We have to go to a baptism seminar, as our son is going to be baptized on the 17th (yes, of November). It's rather soon, but it was the only time my wife could have it done without it being close to Christmas (December) or chance the weather (January or February).
That said, I checked with some members of the community site I'm on. My son is being baptized Catholic, as that is my wife's religion. Me, I'm not very religious, but I'm sure once I start transitioning, by opinion of some other people, it will not be met well. It doesn't bother me, but I can only imagine.
And then there's the thing of seeing my in-laws earlier than expected. It shouldn't be so bad, but the party after my son's baptism will have them and my family together. My family doesn't know, so we'll see how everything goes. I'm sure some people will want to discuss things, but it's really not the time, at least not yet.
Let's hope things go well.
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Tuesday, October 22, 2013
Changes coming my way
So, yesterday my wife got a call from her mom, and said she wanted all three of us (my wife, my son, and I) to come out for Thanksgiving. This is a large step, considering they didn't want to see me or talk to me at all.
I'm not sure how I feel about it all. I'm glad they're taking a step towards accepting me (that's not going to happen this visit), but it's difficult knowing all the things they said about me, and the fact that they tried to get me and my wife to split up.
The other thing that bothers me is my sister in law. She made some pretty nasty accusations towards me after I came out, and I don't think I can forgive those. Not to mention, the relationship between her and I was a complete lie. To start, she told my wife right from the start that she thought my wife could do better, and then she felt uncomfortable around me. Then, she made accusations towards me (after I came out) that I was peeking in her room when she was in it and that I was looking through her laundry. Now that we're going for Thanksgiving, she told my wife that she will not be acknowledging me at all, pretending I'm not even there. At least my wife's parents are trying, but I don't think I will ever have a decent relationship with her sister, especially after everything she said.
That's all for now. We'll see how things go next month.
I'm not sure how I feel about it all. I'm glad they're taking a step towards accepting me (that's not going to happen this visit), but it's difficult knowing all the things they said about me, and the fact that they tried to get me and my wife to split up.
The other thing that bothers me is my sister in law. She made some pretty nasty accusations towards me after I came out, and I don't think I can forgive those. Not to mention, the relationship between her and I was a complete lie. To start, she told my wife right from the start that she thought my wife could do better, and then she felt uncomfortable around me. Then, she made accusations towards me (after I came out) that I was peeking in her room when she was in it and that I was looking through her laundry. Now that we're going for Thanksgiving, she told my wife that she will not be acknowledging me at all, pretending I'm not even there. At least my wife's parents are trying, but I don't think I will ever have a decent relationship with her sister, especially after everything she said.
That's all for now. We'll see how things go next month.
Friday, October 18, 2013
Ok, it's been some time since I last updated, so here's what's happening.
Things are great at home. My wife and I are officially staying together. It took some time for her to decide what she wanted to do, but she feels she can accept me as a woman just as much as she can a man. Our little guy is six months old, and growing taller by the day. He's a little behind on weight, but that's ok. As for me, I'm dressing around the house while my wife is away, but she allows me to wear pajamas to bed, and my underwear under my regular clothing.
I still haven't spoken to my in-laws since July. I'm actually not ready to talk to them about anything yet, so I'm okay with that right now. It still hurts to have been dropped so easily from "family." On that note, the rest of my wife's family has been pretty good. Two of her aunts support us, and her grandmother even went out and got books that her doctor recommended, and she supports us as well. In fact, she told my wife that she needs to let me change so this doesn't destroy me from the inside out. That was the sweetest things I heard that day.
That's about all for now. Kinda tired. Think I'll lay down for a bit and then get some more stuff done around the house.
Things are great at home. My wife and I are officially staying together. It took some time for her to decide what she wanted to do, but she feels she can accept me as a woman just as much as she can a man. Our little guy is six months old, and growing taller by the day. He's a little behind on weight, but that's ok. As for me, I'm dressing around the house while my wife is away, but she allows me to wear pajamas to bed, and my underwear under my regular clothing.
I still haven't spoken to my in-laws since July. I'm actually not ready to talk to them about anything yet, so I'm okay with that right now. It still hurts to have been dropped so easily from "family." On that note, the rest of my wife's family has been pretty good. Two of her aunts support us, and her grandmother even went out and got books that her doctor recommended, and she supports us as well. In fact, she told my wife that she needs to let me change so this doesn't destroy me from the inside out. That was the sweetest things I heard that day.
That's about all for now. Kinda tired. Think I'll lay down for a bit and then get some more stuff done around the house.
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