No no no, that's not what you think it means. I did not divorce and get remarried in less than a week.
No, it's me! I'm the new wife! Sort of.
My wife and I had a discussion over the weekend, and a good one finally. No yelling, some tears, and a lot of questions answered that we were both not wanting to ask.
But we came to middle ground. That means we get to stay married, and I get to be Chelsea. It's not all the time of course, but it's enough for me. She asked me not to go on hormones and fully transition, but is allowing me to be Chelsea, well... Not whenever I feel like it, because that would defeat the purpose of me not transitioning. Mostly, just being Chelsea whenever it isn't a risk to our lives, and some other times I need to be male too.
Like, obviously I can't go to the DMV as Chelsea, the picture wouldn't match. Work is off limits too, duh. As per my family, AND hers, we're going to take our time. My friends are very supportive, but family is a different story. I still have to tell my family, but we're waiting until after my son's first birthday. It might seem sort of selfish, but it's more for him than us. And I don't think people want to be at his party looking at me and having questions swim through their heads.
But, back on topic. I'm allowed to go out in public as Chelsea. I can go a lot of places as Chelsea. Eventually, I'll be going to my family as Chelsea. And, my wife doesn't care about this next one. Eventually, I'll go to her family as Chelsea. It's gotta start slow, but we'll get there.
I'm very excited too, because I have my first girls' day coming up. One of my close female friends is having me, Chelsea, over for lunch, and then we're going to go shopping. Sigh. It's nice to finally be one of the girls.
So yes, my wife is, by certain viewpoint, married to two people. But, it's the best of both worlds. She gets a husband who is there for her, to hold her and be strong for her, and a wife, who can really relate to her. And me, I get to keep my family and be myself. What a deal. Couldn't have asked for a better one.
